Feminism Basics

*Trigger Warnings: We're going to be talking about bodies, sex, rape, murder, etc. Some “vulgar” or “explicit” words will be used.*

Hello, thank you for reading my essay. I am well aware that feminism can be a confusing, overwhelming, and touchy topic for society. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about feminism; and there are a lot of 'feminists' who promote sexism. What I want to do is talk about all of that. 

I'm American, and my main focus is on America. However, most of what I will go over is still relevant to the rest of the Western world. I'm also going to be quoting and linking to other people's articles. I may not agree with every single word or idea in them, but I agree with the overall point, or the connection I specify.

We're going to start off slow, and ease into things. That means we're first going to take a look at language and the definitions of different terms.

The Definitions of Healthy Love

This is a supplemental post to my Feminism Basics essay, and a companion post to my piece on defining abuse. There I go over the things not to do in relationships. Here I go over what to do, and what is truly important. Many of the articles I quote are focusing on romantic relationships; however the topics discussed in them are true for any relationship. Therefore, these quotes are relevant to everyone.

The Definitions of Abuse

This is a supplemental post to my Feminism Basics essay, but it can also be read on it's own. It is clear to me that there are a lot of people out there who don't understand what abuse is, and that breaks my heart. Therefore, I've made this post to defineit. See here for my companion post on what makes relationships healthy.

Tauriel is Tolkien, Not Token

I have already written extensively about Tauriel and the fact that the criticism towards her is both inaccurate and sexist. This post is to show how Tauriel fits perfectly into Tolkien's legendarium. It is a supplemental post to my Tauriel essay, for scene details please read that. Bold in Tolkien's quotes is my emphasis.

Kiliel: Interracial and Queer

Trigger warnings: mentions of assault, rape, and murder.

Those who know me know that Tauriel/Kili is my favorite romantic relationship, and this essay is about two aspects of it that are commonly overlooked.

Tolkien is known for his interracial relationships, and Middle-earth's history is fundamentally shaped by them. Many people have talked about how Tolkien explicitly and consistently condemns internal racism throughout the legendarium. The Fellowship is the most well known example, but there are many different examples of how great things always happen when the different races come together. Haldir summarizes it perfectly when he says, “Indeed in nothing is the power of the Dark Lord more clearly shown than in the estrangement that divides all those who still oppose him.”

Alternatively, many haters say that Tauriel/Kili invalidates the importance Legolas and Gimli's friendship because now Legolas and Gimli were not the first elf and dwarf to get along.

This is completely nonsensical. Legolas and Gimli's friendship was never the first. Elves and dwarrow have a long history together that began before the First Age (see here for a complete covering of that history).

This also ignores the fact that Legolas and Gimli's friendship only starts after Gimli's relationship with Galadriel; and that that relationship is part of an often overlooked yet fundamental part of Tolkien's legendarium – the majority of Tolkien's romantic relationships are also interracial, and most of them are explicitly stated to be divine order. All of them follow a distinct pattern.

Feminism and Love

*This essay is a part of my Feminism series. You must read my Intro before reading this essay.*

This essay is about our society's extremely dysfunctional and restricted view of love. You must be familiar with the terms on my terminology list to understand this essay.

I said in my Intro that, “I love love, I love the psychology behind love, and having healthy and loving relationships is one of the biggest priorities in my life.” Being a lover of love, I love love in all it's forms.

Though some progress has been made, the romanticizing and sexualizing of emotions, especially love and passion, is still systematically overlooked or denied.

Nothing is inherently romantic. Absolutely nothing. What makes something romantic is if you feel romantic attraction when you do it. That's it. Likewise, nothing is inherently sexual. Kissing, hugging, hand holding, cuddling, sharing a bed, living together, etc. - none of these things are inherently romantic or sexual.

Wood Elves and Queer Coding

*This essay is a part of my 'Tolkien and Gender' series. You must read my Intro before reading this essay.*

Queer Coding. For those who don't know, queer coding is giving a character traits commonly associated with queer people, without explicitly stating that they are queer. Now, are any traits inherently queer? No. Our end goal is getting rid of labeling and classifying personality traits. However, we are no where near that point yet. Not only do we still code specific traits and behaviors as queer, most of the time they are talked about negatively – there is a long history of queer coding villains. Positive examples are usually (but not always) lumped in with and called 'queer subtext'. However, my issue with that is the fact that queer subtext goes far beyond a character's characterization (rightly so; and a queer coded character can certainly be part of a larger queer subtext). For this essay, I'm going to be using the term queer coding.

I came across a post recently that went along the usual lines of 'Thranduil is queer coded, Thranduil is a villain, this is bad'.

Thranduil is definitely queer coded; but he is not a villain, and this is not bad. That post also ignored the fact that Legolas and Tauriel are also queer coded (since I will be referring to parts of their aesthetics, see here if you want my full analysis of them).